Helping Yourself To Overcome Tragedy

Helping Yourself To Overcome Tragedy

Signs Your Child Is Being Bullied And How You (The Parent) Can Help

Ella Heino

Bullying is anything that is considered aggressive behavior that occurs over time and repeatedly. Bullying can be done by making threats, causing injury both verbally or physically, spreading vicious rumors, or intentionally excluding your child from activities or from a group. Your child may be experiencing one of these things at school, and you may not see the signs that she is being bullied. See below for signs to look for in your child and what you can do to help.

Warning Signs:

Note that your child may not exhibit any of these behaviors, but if you notice even any subtle changes in their behavior, take notice and be sure to talk to your child about bullying.

  • Unexplained Injuries. If your child is coming home from school with bruises, scrapes or black eyes and cannot explain how she got them, or comes home with re-occuring injuries, it could be caused from a bully at school.
  • Lost Or Damaged Possessions. Your child may be bullied if she is coming home with damaged possessions such as a broken electronic device or toy, or her clothing or other personal items such as backpacks, lunch bags and accessories are always getting "lost".
  • Change In Behavior. Changes include not wanting to go to school all of a sudden or a decrease in grades. Faking illnesses, or a change in eating or sleeping habits, may also point to a problem at school.
  • Mistreating Others. If your child is becoming a bully to her younger siblings, or to younger children in the neighborhood, it may be because she is being bullied herself and she is starting to mimic this behavior.

How You Can Help:

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, all children involved should be supported. Whether the child is the bully or the victim, these children should all be supported in order to help stop the problem from happening again to another child, as well as decrease any negative effects. See below for tips on how to help your child if you notice any of the signs above in your child.

  1. Open Up Conversation. Talk to your child about bullying and ask her if she may be experiencing this at school. She may not be open about this topic, but keep trying. Listen to what she says and learn about the problem. Be sure your child understands that bullying is not her fault.
  2. Get Help. Get your child help if she doesn't want to talk to you about the problem. She may be more apt to talk to a counselor or therapist about the issues she is having at school.
  3. Talk To The School Principal. If your child is being bullied, you should contact the school principal for information on what to do. They may decide to hold an anti-bullying assembly, and they can offer further guidance and suggestions on what you can do as the parent. 

When dealing with a bullied child, remember that she may not want to discuss the bullying. Keep trying to open up communication about the problem and tell her that you are there to talk about it when she needs it. Do not ignore the situation; get your child the help she needs so this does not become an ongoing problem or deteriorate your child's self esteem. Watch for signs and get help.


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Helping Yourself To Overcome Tragedy

After two of my family members passed away in a freak accident, I didn't know how I was going to go on. The grief seemed to stick with me day after day, and friends started to notice that I didn't care as much about my normal hobbies. However, my aunt suggested that I take a class on self-help, and so I started attending seminars. You wouldn't believe how much of a difference it made. Within a few days, I started to cope a little better with my surroundings. It was like someone switched on a light. This blog is all about how to help yourself overcome tragedy.